Posted by: rarasrumanti | September 18, 2007

on expectations

Lately there is this idea of unmet expectations that has been running around in my head. It’s driving me close to being nuts to be honest. Now, as selfish as this may sound, I just have to pour it out here. You know how some people just let something like this float inside them, well it gets accumulated and may very well clog you. So using avoidance of such clogging as justification, I will now embark on this 20 min journey of unclogging what is left of my brain at this unfriendly hour.

Feeling somewhat lonely is something that I am becoming accustomed to these days. I guess this is the case of almost every international student studying something that takes up a large part of their time, rendering them short of social lives. As in the case of other people, so I’m not just speaking for myself here, there is always a certain someone that you feel you can always count on to cheer you up, give you a boost, soothe your soul, and what-have-yous. It may be your bestfriend, your significant other, your sibling, a parent. So this question comes up, how well do they know about the position they fill and therefore the significant role that they play in your life? I’m suggesting, sometimes they are just clueless. And it’s not always fair to burden them with such high expectations. But the harm is already done out of this unawareness. You question the titles you place on these people, asking yourself if they really deserve it, saying to yourself that if the table was turned you would do exactly what is expected of you. Well, I learn today that sometimes, no matter how hard it might be, you have no choice but to just suck it in.. and open your eyes to others out there who might play the roles that you didn’t assign them to play, but they willingly play for you. Yeah, so you get disappointed because your bestfriend hangs out with their new friends or your significant other just doesn’t quite get it. Well, that’s what comes with expectations. Brace yourself and open your hearts to other people, when you truly need a comforting hand, there will always be one ready for you. You just have to look beyond your expectations.



  1. yups….agree…kinda feelin the same 🙂

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